After The Trust Is Broken, This Is The Help Your Marriage Needs - Bishop T.D Jakes

Healing doesn’t happen on its own

If you broke your arm, one hour wouldn’t pass before you got the right team in place to start its healing.  Yet, when our marriage is broken we often keep the pain hidden from those around us.  Shame and disappointment keep us from reaching out, so we shoulder the burden alone.  

If you want to heal from this, you both need help.  Counseling is necessary if you want to work through the fracture.  The numbers show that when a couple seeks counseling, over 90% feel positive about the steps forward, however measured.  Those steps, in turn, act as the first movement toward reconciliation.  

To start, the partner who cheated must confront the parts of her that are broken.  The infidelity reflects a lack of self love or an insatiable need for outside validation.  Her brokenness could have brought about this betrayal in your marriage, but if you want to save it, you both must find a way forward together. Seeking an outside, neutral  perspective will guide you through the pain.    

If there is still love between you, reach for a counselor, reach for your friends, but most importantly--reach out to save it.  Now.